Sexist masculine gay men raising sons to hate women
In addition to this there is a dominant logic that suggests that because gay men have no conscious desire to be sexually intimate with women, our uninvited touching and groping physical assault is benign. An example: I was at a gay club in Atlanta with a good friend of mine who is a heterosexual black woman. While dancing in the club, a white gay male reached out and grabbed both her breasts aggressively. We expressed our frustrations to him and demanded he apologize, but he simply refused. He clearly felt entitled to touch her body and could not even acknowledge the fact that he had assaulted her. I have experienced this attitude as being very common amongst gay men.
Gay Men’s Sexism and Women’s Bodies
The Gay Men Who Hate Women - VICE
Could there be a more choking illustration of the misogyny of gay men? So it amazes me that, bar the odd murmur that rarely reaches a roar, gay men have escaped the rightful opprobrium of women for the only real smell: the stench of sexism. But this week that changed. What I would hope they would do is lend a hand to women.
Yes there is misogyny among gay men – but our sexist world is the problem
Even in cases where temporary alimony makes sense—as when a spouse has quit a job to raise the children—it's hard to understand the need for lifetime alimony payments, given women's current levels of workforce participation. As one alimony-paying ex-husband says, "The theory behind this was fine back in the '50s, when everybody was a housewife and stayed home. This isn't the only case in which men can suffer from gender discrimination. David Benatar, in his monograph The Second Sexism discusses a whole range of other ways in which men as men are disadvantaged. Men, for example, receive custody of children in only about 10 percent of divorce cases in the United States.
This article was originally published on Broadly. It can feel almost more gross than it does from straight men. It's like, you're not even trying to express sexual interest in me, you're just asserting your dominance over my body just because you're a man—you're just doing it because you can. Victoria Sin is a queer woman living in London and a female drag queen.